Thanksgiving is less than three weeks away, which means the holiday season is about to hit full force. And if you're anything like most women I know, you're already mentally running through your list of everything you "should" be doing.
The cards. The baking. The hosting. The decorating. All those traditions you've been doing for years because, well, that's what you've always done.
But what if I told you that you don't actually have to keep doing them? And that letting go isn't as scary as it seems. Let me show you how to ditch the traditions that feel more like traps and create space for what actually brings you joy.
Step 1: Make your tradition inventory.
Pull out a calendar and look at holidays, birthdays, and events throughout the year. Traditions usually cluster around celebrations. Without overthinking it, just write down everything you do. The gingerbread houses you decorate. The cards you send. The annual party you host. The cookies you bake. The decorations you put up. Get it all down on paper, even the stuff you do on complete autopilot without thinking about why.
Step 2: Ask yourself the uncomfortable question.
Step away from your list. Come back with fresh eyes (maybe even wait a day). Then go through each item and ask yourself one simple question: Do I actually like doing this? Not "should I like this" or "does my family expect this." Just do I like it? Mark yes or no next to each one. Don't overthink it. Your gut reaction is usually the truth.
Step 3: Investigate the "no" items.
For everything you marked no, dig into where this tradition came from. Half the time we have no idea why we're doing something. It's just what we've always done. Ask yourself: Am I doing this because it's become a "should"? And here's the big one: Am I ready to let go of this? Remember, you don't owe anyone an explanation. This is your life, your time, your home.
Step 4: Rethink the "yes but stressful" items.
Maybe you marked yes on some traditions because you genuinely enjoy them, but they're creating massive stress. Good news: You get to keep the joy and lose the stress by shifting how you do it. Delegate parts of it. Do it less often. Change the timing. I love holiday cards, but sending them in December was becoming one more thing on an already packed plate. So this year? I'm sending Valentine's Day cards instead. Same joy, zero December stress.
Just because it's "always been done this way" doesn't mean it always has to be. You get to decide what traditions you carry forward and which ones you leave behind. You get to create new traditions that actually fit your life now, not the life you had ten years ago. So before you dive headfirst into the holiday chaos, take an hour to go through this process. Future you will thank you.
The holidays are coming fast, and if you're shopping for someone, I've got you covered. I'm sharing my actual favorite tools and products that make planning easier and more enjoyable.
These aren't random recommendations; they're things I use regularly or have genuinely changed how I work and live. No fluff, just gifts that actually get used instead of collecting dust in a drawer:
- Cozy Earth Bubble Cuddle Blanket
This blanket has become such a hit in our house that my daughter and I literally fight over it, so she's getting her own for the holidays. It's my go-to gift for anyone who's hard to shop for. Their bamboo pajamas are also a lifesaver if you're dealing with night sweats. Head to cozyearth.com and use code HARMONY for up to 40% off. - The TOP Planner
My physical paper planner is designed specifically for women who need their planning system to work with real life. This is what I use every day to manage my 7-figure business in 4.5 hours. If someone on your list has a planner graveyard, this one actually works. - Pilot FriXion Erasable Pens
These erasable pens let you have colorful planning without the permanence that makes you afraid to write anything down. The ink vanishes completely when you erase, so you can adjust plans without a scratched-out mess. I use all 12 colors to create visual systems in my planner. - Large Reusable Wall Calendars
These gorgeous wall calendars are printed on thick cardstock with erasable coating so you can use them year after year. They make planning visually beautiful instead of just functional, and they've sold out four times already.
How to Stay Informed Without Getting Sucked Into Social Media
Social media is one of the biggest distractions we face, and deleting accounts feels freeing until you realize you're missing out on learning about new programs, podcasts, and resources you actually want to know about. The challenge is figuring out how to stay on top of the information you value without social media becoming a total time suck.
In this week's Weekly Buzz, I'm sharing multiple strategies you can test to find what works for you, including how to use app limits effectively (and actually honor them), why deleting apps from your phone but keeping them on your computer changes everything, and my approach to proactive research time versus mindless scrolling. You'll learn how I've designed my phone's home screen to eliminate temptation and why scheduling specific times to search for what you want beats letting the feed control you.
Remember, this video is updated every Wednesday, so don’t miss it! Head to The Pink Bee app to watch now.
Friend, don’t forget—just 15 minutes of planning today can set the tone for your entire week. You’ve got the tools, you’ve got the tips, and now it’s time to take action. Let’s crush this week together!
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